What is Coaching all about?

So what is Anger Management Coaching? A professional partnership between a qualified anger management coach and you that supports the achievement of extraordinary results, based on anger management goals set by you. Through the process of Anger Management coaching, you can focus on the skills and actions needed to successfully produce your highest and best results. The goals in anger management coaching are focused on research-based anger management techniques and emotional intelligence development found in the Anger Management Institute Curriculum.

Anger management coaching assesses your issues and needs and incorporates Emotional Intelligence areas of development: Self-awareness, Self-management and motivation, Social Awareness and Relationship management.

Anger Management coaching concentrates on where you are now and what you are willing to do to get where you want to be in the future in regards to managing and transforming your anger. This includes a thorough assessment.

Anger Management coaching typically assesses your current opportunities and challenges, defines the scope of the relationship with your coach, identifies priorities for action, and establishes specific desired outcomes relating to anger and conflict management issues. This aspect leads to greater self-awareness.

Anger management coaching is based on trust, collaboration and permission.

Anger management coaching seeks to help you transform the energy of anger into positive channels which benefit your life and relationships as a whole. This aspect leads you to greater self-management and motivation.

Anger management coaching helps you focus on practical, effective methods for anger change implementing such skills as: assertiveness, problem-solving, empathy, forgiveness, cognitive restructuring, and more! This aspect enhances your ability to manage and motivate yourself, become socially aware and develop healthy relationships.

Through the Anger Management coaching process you gain clarity which supports the most effective actions to achieve your goals. Anger Management Coaching accelerates your progress by providing greater focus and awareness of possibilities, opportunities, approaches and changes regarding choices you can make in the areas of anger management and emotional intelligence.

Contact our Director, Steve Yeschek, LCSW, CAMS-IV for more information and services in Oak Brook and Cary, IL: 815-451-8040 

Strategies for Successful Relationships

© copyright 2018 Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-V

As we look at relationships today we have to ask: what has gone wrong? From work conflicts to child abuse to aggression in society, we watch as rage, betrayal, seduction and selfishness destroy lives and relationships. Marriages are falling apart, unhappy and conflictual. Families are abusive, strained, distant. Friendships are superficial, fragile and lack accountability. Business relationships are characterized by distrust, tension, competition and jealousy.

While relationships can seem formidable and difficult we still desire to be connected and enjoy great relationships – even in the workplace! What does it take to relate with others in a meaningful way? How can we personally overcome -anger- that enemy which causes so much relationship distress!

“All of us have experienced anger. Some of us have cringed under the rage in our families, struggled with it in our souls, felt it toward our friends, co-workers and loved ones. Some of us have shocked others with volcanoes of anger. The evidence abounds that we live in a mad, mad, mad world. Statistics report:

•23% of Americans openly express their anger.

•39% say they hold it in or hide it.

•23% say they walk away.

•23% confess to having hit someone.

•17% admit they have destroyed someone’s property out of anger.”

(Resource: What’s Good About Anger? by Lynette Hoy and Ted Griffin)

Nehemiah writes about his angry reaction to social injustice in the Old Testament. He took positive action to confront oppressive officials in Israel and reverse injustice. St. Paul provides instructions regarding anger in Ephesians 4:25-6 “In your anger, do not sin.. do not let the sun go down on your anger.”

Practical strategies for handling anger:

When a co-worker says harshly: “You didn’t let me know you were going to lunch early and I ended up taking all the calls!” or

When your boss states indignantly: “You didn’t finish the contract and now, we’ve missed the deadline!”

Rather than lashing out in anger, defensiveness or concealing it, you can pray to God to help you respond with a gentle answer, and assertiveness such as:

…”I am sorry that you had so many calls while I was gone. I did mention to you that I would be going to lunch early this morning. Any ideas on how we can avoid this situation in the future?”

…”Say more about the contract deadline please? I understood the deadline was tomorrow.”

When you are able to control your anger, it may help defuse the other person’s anger and promote respectful dialogue. Take a risk this week and turn your anger into a gentle assertiveness. Learning strategies to overcome anger – a prime relationship enemy – will get you further down the road to success in all your relationships.”

Lynette J. Hoy, is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, speaker, writer and and author. Order her books, What’s Good About Anger? .
Contact Lynette at: counselor@hoyweb.com or at 630-368-1880.

Contact Steve Yeschek directly at: 815-451-8040.
Yeschek and Associates, 2615 Three Oaks Rd., Suite 2A, Cary, IL.